First love is one of the most wonderful feelings one could have in one’s life. That is the first time a person is exposed to love other than from one’s parents and relatives. Then this love becomes one of the priorities in the life. Most people had fallen in love for the first time when they were teenagers. That exciting new experience most of us remember very well during all our life. The teenager feels all its difficulties for the first time in life.
Very often, we cherish these memories a lot, sometimes idealise them, and remember the first love as something very innocent and fragile. But, how did you feel when you broke up with you precious first love?
Vishal from Sri Lanka, who is a Radio DJ has a story to tell about how he broke up with his first love.
“I really loved her, but she wanted only to be the girl friend of the famous Vishal. She broke up with me when my doctors advised me to rest after a major operation.”
Once bitten, twice shy, he is against all the women he meets, arguing that women just play with men, hiding inside the word relationship.
Dianne who went through a similar situation also has the same idea about men. Now, she is scared to date another man.
“I’m not yet ready for that. I don’t want to go through the same experience twice”, she explained.
“People who recollect their first romantic experience as involving good feelings, for instance, citing memories of happiness, excitement, strength, inspiration, pride and enthusiasm, were more likely to be in stable relationships years later than those recalling hostility, upset, stress, guilt, fright or shame,” Professor Jennifer Beer from University of California states.
“Those with memories of positive emotion and outcomes from their first relationship were more likely to have positive views of self and others in romantic relationships,” She also added. “Those with more negative emotions and outcome were more likely to show patterns such as Dismissive, Preoccupied, and Fearful."
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